Jerusalem Letters of Lasting Interest
VP:70 26 Adar 5748 / 15 March 1988
SOME PARADOXES IN AMERICAN JEWISH LIFE
Gerald Bubis
The Cost of Jewish Education / One Generation Supports Three /
Tapping Public Funds / Our Grandparents Gave More / Uneasy
Acceptance in America / Involving the Best Jews / Supporting
American, Not Jewish, Arts / A Cosmopolitan People with a
Localistic Perspective / Controversy or Consensus / A Jewish
Career for Someone Else's Child / Israel -- Reality vs. Ideal /
Where are the Intellectuals? / The Passing of the Immigrant Phase
/ Hiding the Elderly / Need for Jewish-Jewish Dialogue / Needed:
Patience and Strength
During two decades of Jewish communal service, I have been
continually confronted by the numerous paradoxes I see in
American Jewish life today. The following list of fifteen
paradoxes represents my personal assessment. The list is not
exhaustive but, for me, intriguing.
The Cost of Jewish Education
The first paradox: No other people has so celebrated, elevated,
or held in high esteem the concept of education and learning as a
desirable norm for everybody, yet the American Jewish community
is the first community in history to charge such high fees as to
keep most people from being able to make use of it. The "people
of the book" in becoming the "people of the buck" have put in a
screen between past, present and future by virtue of introducing
the concept of self-sustaining Jewish education while supporting
the concept of free public education.
One Generation Supports Three
The second paradox: We are a people who revere the elderly in
our teachings and yet probably are facing the first generation of
Jews who resent the elderly because there are now two generations
of elderly to support. How will the American Jewish community
deal with the elderly in light of the double and triple bind of
one generation supporting at least two others?
I have discovered seven Jewish homes for the aged where there are
two generations of one family living in that home, where
65-year-old widows have asked to live out their lives with their
mothers and are sharing rooms in homes for the aged. That is a
new phenomenon. Couple this with the fact that, as a rule, the
young do not go out and become economically viable until the end
of the first third of their lives. These learning adults are
economic leeches who send home laundry instead of money. Coupled
with the longevity of the elderly, one ponders the paradoxes that
arise from the sandwich generation that must support four
generations.
Tapping Public Funds
The third paradox: All American Jewry was admitted into America
on the basis of an oath to Peter Styvesant, namely that there
would never be public funds utilized to support Jews. Today, of
all the dollars spent under Jewish communal or organizatonal
auspices, there are far more third-party payment or government
dollars than Jewish dollars. While rhetorically we revel in our
independence, the reality is that we as a Jewish community have
become very dependent upon funds from outside of Jewish sources.
And this does not include the overwhelming support of Israel from
U.S. government funds, which now far outstrips traditional Jewish
support sources.
Our Grandparents Gave More
The fourth paradox: We are a far wealthier community than we
like to admit publicly. This is not meant to ignore the Jewish
poor, but putting that reality aside for the moment, in the
latest listing of the 400 wealthiest Americans by Forbes
magazine, at least 30 percent are Jews. One had to have $180
million to get on the list. Now in 1935 there were
proportionately more Jews in America on relief than any other
ethnic community. Look how far we have come! The paradox is when
one adds up all the money that these Jews give as a function of
the percentage of their wealth, our poor grandparents were giving
proportionately more money for tzedakah from their resources
than
the Jews today.
Uneasy Acceptance in America
The fifth paradox: For all practical purposes, Jews have broken
about every barrier that exists in America with really very few
exceptions -- Jews are presidents of universities that excluded
Jewish students not too long ago; United Jewish Appeal drives are
conducted in the White House among the Jewish staff; Jewish
members of the United States Congress are elected from districts
without Jews, etc. Gallup polls indicate that 93 percent of
Americans would vote for a Jew to be president if they saw that
Jew as being a good person. At the same time, most Jews in
America think the biggest problem in America is anti-Semitism.
If the Jews were ever to disappear in America, they would
disappear because they were loved to death rather than killed by
Nazis or Ku Klux Klan or hurt by serious anti-Semites. This
paradox influences the sources and extent of funds contributed
for Jewish life. 350,000 different contributors can be counted
on to contribute to a "Nazi watch," "Shoah business" and
"Shoah-ology." On the other hand, all the Jewish museums in the
United States do not collectively have 50,000 people supporting
them.
Involving the Best Jews
The sixth paradox: We can rarely classify, categorize, discuss,
or identify change and innovation in the West without coming up
with a highly disproportionate number of Jews at the heart of
these innovations. As proof is a story told by Rabbi Hugo Gryn
of London. Rabbi Gryn came out of Theresienstadt and Auschwitz
to England where he was sent at age 15 to Cambridge to study,
without even knowing English. He got his first degree in science
and only later the late, great Rabbi Leo Baeck talked him into
becoming a rabbi. Gryn kept in touch with some of his friends
who graduated with him at Cambridge. A few years ago one of
these friends was in England, involved in a very esoteric
scientific exploration of the theory of implosion and explosion
and the beginnings of the universe. A convention was held in
Moscow of all the people doing work in this very esoteric field.
Some thirty-seven people came to that meeting. There were two
Chinese, a Japanese, and thirty-four Jews! The paradox is that
it is rare to have those same Jews involved in Jewish life. We
do not know how to bring the most innovative Jewish minds of our
generation into the ongoing processes of the Jewish community.
Supporting American, Not Jewish, Arts
The seventh paradox: There is a disproportionate support of the
arts by Jews in America. Brendan Behan, the famous author, once
said "one more Yom Kippur [War] and Broadway would be dead." One
can visit city after city and note the disproportionate
contribution to the world of general arts by Jews. The paradox
is the low priority that culture has within the Jewish community
itself. There is almost no serious funding of comparable arts --
symphonies, plays, music, etc. -- under Jewish auspices. (I am
aware of the American-Israel Cultural Foundation, the annual
playwright awards, etc. which in the scheme of things are a
pittance.)
A Cosmopolitan People with a Localistic Perspective
The eighth paradox: When the Jews are accused of being an
international Jewish conspiracy, thank God, we are. We truly
have learned, sometimes very secretly, how to transfer funds and
personnel, to do magical, mysterious things across the borders of
countries throughout the world on behalf of Jews. But in America
we do not know how to transfer dollars across state lines to
follow changing social concerns. An older woman moving to Israel
has a greater chance that some American money will somehow get to
help her than if she moved from Los Angeles to Miami. We can
cross water, we can cross space, we can cross air, but we cannot
cross state lines. In such a "congregational" mode in America,
we are the cosmopolitan people with localistic approaches to
problems once we leave the international scene.
Controversy or Consensus
The ninth paradox: Traditionally, Jewish life has thrived on
controversy and debate. In America, the mechanism we have chosen
for solving problems is consensus so that debate must always be
muted and private and civil. Those three words, if not an
anathema, are certainly alien to the Israeli experience. So it
means that dialectic as a mode for sharpening issues is absent.
Indeed, one who engages in dialectic is somehow seen as
anti-establishment, anti-Jewish and inauthentic, and is not seen
as contributing to the betterment of Jewish life. We have lost
our roots, and perhaps our direction for consensus dulls the
clarifying of issues.
A Jewish Career for Someone Else's Child
The tenth paradox: In America, Jewish life has probably
developed the most comprehensive set of institutions for training
and educating communal workers and communal staff, rabbis,
educators, social workers, and administrators that has ever
existed in the history of the Jewish world. Yet almost nobody
wants his or her child to go into these professions. Money is
given by people to support these institutions as long as their
own children do not attend. "What, you want to be a rabbi? Are
you sick or something?" "A Jewish educator? ... No job for a
yiddishe boy or girl." Whom do we honor? Whom do we reward?
Certainly not those who serve Jewish life as a life-long career.
Israel -- Reality vs. Ideal
The eleventh paradox: Jews in America love Israel as an ideal
and have used that ideal to shape American identity. They cannot
stand Israel when it becomes human and real rather than ideal.
And the more human and real Israel becomes, the more
uncomfortable American Jews become with its being human. The
myths sustain us and reality gives us despair. The most
reality-oriented people in the world have yet to learn how to
live with this generation's abiding reality -- a real Israel.
Where are the Intellectuals?
The twelfth paradox: Forty years ago there were almost no jobs
for Jewish scholars in the universities. Today in the 10 major
American universities, 25 percent of the academics are Jews.
Almost none of them have anything to do with Jewish life in a
serious way. America is the first Jewish community in history to
have effectively eliminated the intellectual in the governance of
the Jewish community. Money is almost the sole criterion for
admission to Jewish governance. Los Angeles is one of the
exceptions.
The Passing of the Immigrant Phase
The thirteenth paradox: In analyzing whatever United States
Jewry has become, until this point the bulk of the
accomplishments were revived or renourished by immigrants. For
the first time now in three hundred years, the American Jewish
community will be on its own. Whatever the number of Israelis,
Soviet Jews, Iranian Jews, and South Africa Jews who have
immigrated to America, numerically speaking there will never
again be an in-migration where in each instance the new wave
exceeded the numbers in place. Is there life after immigrants
going into the fourth generation?
Hiding the Elderly
The fourteenth paradox: America is probably the first community
in our history to try to hide away our elderly and our aged by
using institutions and single-generation communities as a way of
serving the elderly away from multi-generatonal living. We
wonder why the young fear the elderly and fear aging. Thus at a
time of the greatest liklihood of living long lives we have yet
to evolve adequate forms of inter-generational life which could
take advantage of the opportunities for transmission of wisdom
from the elderly to the young -- and the hope for the future from
the young to the old.
Need for Jewish-Jewish Dialogue
The fifteenth paradox: In America we spend far more time in
fruitful dialogue and discussion between Jews and Christians than
we do between Jews and Jews. Rarely, if ever, has there been a
more vital and fruitful time for the flourishing of the
Christian-Jewish dialogue, even as there has never been a more
desperate time and need for the flourishing of dialogue between
the denominations within Judaism. The destiny of all Jews calls
out for this dialogue to close gaps, to agree to agree and to
disagree, amicably and with respect, even as this happens between
Jew and Christian.
Needed: Patience and Strength
This list of paradoxes is in no order of priorities. It simply
presents an agenda of concern and of opportunity. It presents an
agenda of reality to which one could add and contend with, but it
indicates that the difficulties for American Jewry are as
follows:
Most of these paradoxes cannot be solved or resolved within short
time frames. They cannot be solved or resolved with easy,
pragmatic responses. The difficulty with abiding paradoxes is
that American Jews have become so used to instant coffee, instant
dinner, instant teas, that they seek instant solutions or decide
the problem cannot be real if it is not easily solved, so it is
ignored. This perhaps is yet another paradox: whether or not the
American Jewish community can work hard enough over a sustained
period of time to resolve some of these paradoxes.
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Professor Gerald Bubis is the founding director of the School for
Jewish Communal Service at the Hebrew Union College-Jewish
Institute of Religion in Los Angeles and a Vice President of the
Jerusalsem Center for Public Affairs. His most recent book is
Saving the Jewish Family published by the Jerusalem Center for
Public Affairs.
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